@sylvanish, There are a large number of only selectively dorky men out there who are into this kind of stuff. They just aren’t the ones who go to every con every year and advertise their hobby on their facebook page.

For instance, Joe Hypothetical is a 31 year old, well adjusted, divorced business analyst for a major banking corporation. He plays softball on the company team, jogs to lose the 15 lbs he’s gained since he quit running two marathons a year like he did in his twenties, and plays trumpet with a local community jazz band. He also happens to paint Warhammer miniatures and battles at his favorite local gaming store every other weekend.

Is this a realistic and dateable guy? Yes (since it is based on a single friend I know). Problem: unless you meet him through gaming, you’re unlikely to know beforehand that he’s a gamer (it’s not like he has it up on his Match.com profile). He’s found a lot more dates through the jazz band than through gaming.

My advice to you is to try to find men through one of your other interests. One in (i don’t know) four of these potential dates will have a closet dorkiness. It might not be the same dorkiness as yours (maybe he’s into tabletop RPGs, or computer games, or is a Star Wars fan), but he’ll be sympathetic to your hobby–and unless you absolutely have to run armies against your significant other, being sympathetic to it is all you need.

Myself: My girlfriend has never played a game of D&D. I didn’t meet her through a love of D&D, I met her through a love of sushi bars. When I did go out with her, though, I found a Joss Whedon obsessive who was perfectly fine with me disappearing every other Saturday to run my imaginary half-elf through graph paper dungeons.

Good luck!

Oh, and the picture: nice to see that they put some effort into the building. Most game producers end up in buildings that double as their warehouses.