Its never the reverse when a monogamous relationship breaks down… people never say, “See, I told you that monogamy doesn’t work.””

That’s not true! I say that. :p I have no plans of spending the rest of my life with someone else. I’m happy alone and am content to share bits and pieces of my life when it’s mutually beneficial but I just don’t buy into the idea that in order to be a happy, healthy person one must follow the American dream recipe.

I have several friends that are poly. I know of one relationship in which two marriages are involved (so four people). They’ve been together for a long time and are happy, functional, very interesting people.

Poly isn’t for me, in that I do not have the energy to give to multiple people… but I have been in situations where my partner had another partner and I was okay with that as long as he was honest (he wasn’t, so I dropped him).

One can only be too open minded when they reach the point that they’ve become closed minded again.

Monogamy isn’t any better than polyamory just because it’s societally accepted.

Can one be too open minded?

Thank you nyokki for your comments.

Fact is, relationships like yours, almost guarantee to harm the feelings of other people. That’s all I said. I wouldn’t want to have anything to do with that.

Ah well, here it goes…again.

Wow, this thread went somewhere unexpected.
I know polyamorous relationships work for some people. Cool I just added polyamorous to the dictionary) I’ve seen no evidence that the love between them is any less than monogamous partners. In fact, I’d say the opposite. People who follow “alternate” lifestyles are keenly aware that it is different and judged in a way that “normal” relationships are not. They take care to nurture the relationship, are more likely to discuss problems and attempt to work it out. I have more in common w/ old people and people w/ alternate lifestyles. There are so few people my age that have been married 10 years, let alone 25.